Since jeeves disabled comments on his post about emo, I figured I'd 'reply' here.
Now I'm not the biggest fan of emo myself. I've heard a lot of it that I don't like, and there is a lot of it that is wallowing in self-pity, whining about girls, etc. Yeah, maybe the more well-known acts like Dashboard Confessional fit that description, but seriously, not all emo music is like that. So it doesn't seem fair to hate the entire genre for that.
Also, a serious question: does music you listen to, whether categorized as 'emo' or elsewise contain elements of self-pity that is more acceptable since it's “deeper” or less obvious (instead of outright singing something like “she broke my heart, wahhhh” ) I don't know Sunny Day Real Estate's music much myself, but I imagine they have songs w/ self-pity in them, but they're generally considered “deeper” or however you want to say it. I don't know, that's just speculation.
At the least, though, jeeves.. you can't entirely hate emo - SDRE is considered emo, at least last I checked.
Anyway, I agree pretty much with what you said about self-pity, it's not good for us. Just not necessarily hating the entire genre. Didn't mean to “call you out” jeeves, but hey, you disabled the comments. :-]