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Grown-up Thoughts

This past December I turned 37. Leading up to my birthday I did not have any particular thoughts about it, but in the following days I started to think about how I’m closing in on 40 now, and that’s quite a weird feeling.

It seems a particularly Generation X (and onward?) thing to talk about not-feeling-like-an-adult. I am sure it is a pretty universal feeling everyone has at some point, but my generation seems to voice it more often. I don’t think that’s a bad thing, generally. Oftentimes it comes with an empowering response of self-definition. Take the classic xkcd #150, for example:

I guess I feel cliché talking about how weird it feels to be approaching 40, but here I am. Several times I have thought “Wow, 40 is about half of your life. What are you going to do with the second half?” It can be an overwhelming feeling until I remind myself that it’s not something I have to decide right now and am then locked into for-evvv-er.

For the most part, I do feel like an adult, and I am pleased with the life choices I have made thus far. What I am realizing is that “I Don’t Feel Like an Adult” is just a chapter in the book, not the title of the book. “I Don’t Know What It Means To Be Forty” is an upcoming chapter. Other chapters include: “You’re Funny, Dammit! Nevermind Their Groans,” “Whittling 101,” and “Using Humor to Deflect Your Insecurities.”

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Michael Bridgewater, Brooke Gale Louvier, Laurie Guerrettaz, and 5 others

Tyler Fontaine Tyler Fontaine
37 is the same age of Dennis from Monty Python's Holy Grail

Dr. Dre Dr. Dre
Old age is a privilege denied to many. I thank God your here- and me too. Love yah. I'm tipping a 40.

Scott Dawson Scott Dawson
@gRegorLove The other side of 40 is quite lovely. Really. I’m in the best shape of my life, ironically! See you on the other side in a few.

gRegor Morrill gRegor Morrill
@scottpdawson Good to hear!

Krazpa Krazpa
A couple of things.
1. Stop sending me pictures of that growth. You should really have a doctor look at that. Addendum, just because you renamed my contact in your phone to Dr. Pepper does not make it ok to keep sending them to me.
2. Did you get that colostomy bag I sent you for your birthday? I hope you're making good use of it.
3. You really are worrying about nothing in regards to turning 40. The over/under of you making it that far is not good.
4. What was it you said about using humor to hide your insecurities?


Lucy Dates Lucy Dates
I hope you write a book about the stages of life. I like your honest perspective!

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