- “Avoid feigning surprise.” When someone says something like “I’ve never heard that you can do x,” instead of replying “You’ve never heard that?!” take a moment to revel in the fact the person is about to learn something new and cool. Let that frame your response.
- Avoid “well, actually...” if someone says something not quite correct.
- Avoid subtle -isms like “so easy my grandmother could do it.” That’s a subtle exclusion of women and older people.
Edit: these are based on the Recurse Center’s social rules.
Chris Aldrich mentioned this –