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This was a great read and I really appreciate the now-therapist reflections! I found you from the alumni Facebook group and look forward to reading the rest in this series. I went on a couple trips in the ’90s and interned in ’97. The documentary was pretty good and I’m planning to write some on my blog too. I realized I mostly haven’t written about it publicly, from my current perspective, just shared in the Facebook groups.


Purity Ring is requesting that fans wear high-quality masks at their shows and they’re providing them if you need one. Grabbed a ticket so fast!

“we kindly request that fans please wear high filtration masks at our shows. n95 or kn95, and we'll have them at the door if anyone needs. thank you!!!”

https://www.instagram.com/p/DL7zqJnRu-m/

Spent most of the day cleaning up a hacked website. Computers might have been a mistake. WordPress definitely was.


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I’m trying out AutoHotKey after seeing Joel’s post with his example script. Looks promising and more flexible.


Please help support a trans community member in San Diego receiving gender affirming surgery: https://gofund.me/1892ec18

Any amount helps and boosting appreciated. 💛


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I’m a big fan of Blue Star Donuts


Listened to “Air-Borne” with Carl Zimmer on 99% Invisible. It was a great introduction to our growing understanding of airborne viruses and the importance of cleaning the air, much like we clean the water.


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Very relatable. Thank you for sharing and I wish the same for you tomorrow. 💛


Watched a great Defcon talk by Micah Lee: “We are currently clean on OPSEC”: The Signalgate Saga

I knew it was bad but hadn’t followed it much after the initial news cycle. It was even worse than I thought.



This cracked me up: comicss.art/comics/190/ 🤣

h/t Joe Crawford


I updated my site to use the Libravatar CDN for avatars. If one isn't found, it will still fallback to Gravatar, so it should be seamless for commenters. I also updated the default icon to identicons, so people without avatars will get a nifty geometric image instead of the anonymous silhouette.

My privacy policy is updated with this information too.


Life Updates

Time has been flying by, as it tends to. I intended to write this life update post back in June, but surprise, you’re getting it in August. (This seems to be a trend.)

It’s been a summer of needing to lean on some friends for support. That’s always a good, if sometimes tough, exercise. In May, I was driving to a doctor’s appointment when all of the dashboard lights came on, including the battery light. That’s never a good sign. Turning off my headlights seemed to resolve it for a couple minutes, but then it happened again. The steering also got stiff like I’d lost power steering. Definitely concerning while I was driving on the highway, though thankfully I was close to my exit.

I exited and had the quick thought that I should pull over and try to restart before I got to the parking garage. If the battery was dead or something, I didn’t want to be stuck in a parking garage. I pulled over, turned it off, and sure enough, it wouldn’t start again. No engine turnover and just the clicking sound. I was pretty sure the battery was dead or maybe the alternator.

I got to use my relatively new AAA membership for the first time. They got there pretty quickly and confirmed it was the alternator. I got it towed to a nearby shop in La Mesa and took a Lyft home. Joe graciously drove me back the next day to pick it up.

A couple weeks later I woke up with some pretty bad pain in my ankle when I walked on it. I was pretty sure it was tendinitis. I rested and elevated it, but it didn’t seem to be getting better, so on day three I asked Joe if he’d help me by taking me to urgent care. Urgent care prescribed me some prednisone, stretching exercises, and icing, which all helped a lot. I’ve had a couple reoccurrences since then, but not for long or as intense. The doctor told me doing these stretches daily for just 5 minutes can have a big impact.

Heartbox 3.0

The appointment I missed was a preliminary to schedule surgery to replace my pacemaker. (Oh yeah, if you’re new around here you might not know I have a pacemaker.) It was replaced in 2014 and was nearing the end of its battery life. Unfortunately, missing the appointment ended up pushing everything back, but I still had plenty of time. It’s a pretty routine, outpatient surgery and I’ve been through it a couple times now, so I wasn’t really concerned about that. I was more concerned about catching COVID or some other airborne virus in the hospital, since unfortunately so few healthcare workers wear respirators these days.

I asked Joe if he would drive me and also help advocate for me. Specifically, I wanted to make sure that once I was out of surgery, they put a respirator back on me. I intended to bring it up with the nurses the day of, but I wasn’t sure what type of reception that would receive. I was grateful to have him in my corner.

Aside/rant
It’s baffling to me that every time I go in to my cardiologist, he and most of the nurses are unmasked (previously). At the preliminary meeting, I brought up that I’d like them to put a respirator mask on me once I was out of surgery. Thankfully he was accommodating and said they could, but then he said some minimizing things that were frustrating. “I actually haven’t seen much of it [COVID] lately.” I had to kind of shrug and say that there’s new variants going around (people are calling this one “razor blade throat”) and I really didn’t want to risk catching it. He followed up asking if I’d had the vaccines. I told him I’ve had every one I was eligible for and am up to date. He affirmed that was good, then added right before he left the room, “I stopped after four... but maybe it’s time to get boosted.” I didn’t even know what to say. Yes, people should get boosted if they can, while we even still have these vaccines. Damn RFK, Jr. (but that’s yet another rant).

Focus, gRegor. Back to the story.

On the day of the surgery, I wore an N95 and brought another couple individually-wrapped masks. I explained to the nurse what I wanted and there was brief confusion where she asked “are you sick now?” I had to explain that I wasn’t and I was being cautious. Thankfully, they were accommodating as well. When they wheeled me into the operating room, the first thing they mentioned was my request. The doctors also seemed confused and asked if I was sick, so I gave the same explanation. 😩

However, it worked out pretty well. As they were getting ready, they suggested they didn’t even have to take the mask off and could put the oxygen on underneath it. So that was awesome and I woke up still wearing the mask, as intended.

When they released me, they recommended that I not be alone that afternoon while the sedatives wore off. I wasn’t too concerned about it, but decided to be cautious and took Joe up on his offer to chill on his couch the rest of the day. I appreciated his flexibility since that hadn’t been the initial plan. I rested at his place the rest of the day and everything went smoothly. We got some Thai takeout that night and watched some Wallace and Gromit, which is always fun.

Fast forward a bit and recovery has gone smoothly with no issues. And no infections from the hospital! Respirators work. 😷💛

My latest adventure was getting a flat tire. I was still healing up, so I got to lean on some friends from a mutual aid group to help me switch out the spare tire. When I went to get the tire replaced (it was flat-flat), I learned that all my tires were quite overdue. I knew it had been quite a while, but didn’t realize it had been over ten years. I’m glad that flat happened while I was parked in my neighborhood and not on the highway.


Want to read: The Heartbeat of Wounded Knee by David Treuer (ISBN 9780399573194)


Large mural of a red, fuzzy monster riding on a T-rex that is pink with purple stripes
Selfie in front of the mural

Throwback to 2018. This mural used to be in North Park, San Diego near where I lived. The artist is Mark Paul Deren (@madsteez on Instagram) and it was titled “WEENosaurus Rex.”

Unfortunately, a mini Target moved into the space and they painted over it, despite a petition trying to save it. Here’s an NBC San Diego article about it. It looks like WEENosaurus might still live on in Fairfax, Virginia, though.


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Challenge accepted! 😉 jk


A black t-shirt with small, green ASCII characters similar to an old computer screen. Together the characters create a picture of a wizard with the word 'webmaster' above it
A black t-shirt with small, green ASCII characters similar to an old computer screen. Together the characters create a picture of a cat. Text above it reads

New shirt arrived just in time for HTML Day! Of course I got the cat one, too.

Grab your own: drawingsbynicole.com


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This method worked for me and I love it: tenbluelinks.org


I watched Shiny Happy People S2 about Teen Mania. I thought it was a good overview and done well. I think I’m going to write more about my experiences from my current perspective. Most of my writings on it are from early 2000s and a lot has changed. Ask me anything!


Music Monday: Ólafur Arnalds

Ólafur Arnalds has a new album, a collaboration with Talos: A Dawning. It is as relaxing, moving, and lovely as always:

Ólafur Arnalds, Talos - A Dawning

I was surprised to find I had not really written about Arnalds much before, despite having recommended him to people many times. For example, this performance recorded in the volcanic wilderness of Iceland is a must-watch on a TV with the sound up:

Ólafur Arnalds live from Hafursey

I love his mix of piano, strings, and some loops & beats. I was really glad I got to see him perform in 2022 in Los Angeles at the Walt Disney Concert Hall (where the LA Philharmonic performs!). It’s a lovely venue where there are basically no bad seats and the sound is phenomenal.

(I also appreciated that the show was masks-required,
which was already becoming more rare at that point.)

There were many moving moments. Before the finale, he told the story of how his late grandmother used to sit him down and make him listen to Chopin (while he was wearing his metal and punk shirts) and how influential she was. Then he played “Lag Fyrir Ömmu” which means “song for grandma.” It started out with just him on piano and built until a few strings come in. The song quieted a bit and the string players exited silently out the side stage door, but it was left partway open. He continued playing piano to the end and sat silently for a moment. Then we heard the strings playing again from the side room. It was quieter, of course, but still very clear due to the acoustics of the space. The music was so beautiful and the symbolism really struck me, as if the strings were his grandmother echoing from the other side. It was powerful and gave me shivers.

That song was part of his Living Room Songs project, where they wrote and recorded a song each day for a week. Here’s a performance of that song:

Ólafur Arnalds - Lag Fyrir Ömmu

You might also be familiar with the music he composed for the TV show Broadchurch:

Ólafur Arnalds - Not Alone

Any of his albums are fine to start with, but I recommend Re:member. He worked with an audio developer to make software that would generate additional notes based on what he was playing, creating some interesting harmonies and sequences. (More about this on Wikipedia)

Listen: