Making friends as an adult is hard. I’ve talked about this with quite a few people and there is always strong agreement. I was a bit surprised by that. It seems like if it’s a common sentiment, more people would be finding each other. I know that’s quite a simplification, of course. Human social interactions are complex, life is busy, some people are butts, and some people already have a social circle they are content with.
It also takes some vulnerability to put yourself out there. I’ve gone to a handful of San Diego meetups and made several acquaintances, but it takes something a little extra to move beyond that to a friendship. I’ve been fairly outgoing in the past, but less so lately.
I recently came across Joe Crawford via Twitter. I saw he was an indieweb enthusiast who also lives in San Diego, so I suggested we should meet up sometime. We met up for dinner and hit it off talking about a variety of web things and even some more personal things that I would not expect to be discussing with someone I just met, like mental health. It was refreshing.
Speaking of meetups, I went to another movie meetup today with Active Lifestyle Nerds. We saw Maleficent: Mistress of Evil then got Mexican for dinner. The movie and hangout time was good. I’m starting to get to know some of them, so maybe there’s some future friends there too.
What has been your experience making new friends as an adult?